An evening with the fantastic Jessamyn Stanley. NO YOGA, JUST GREAT CONVO!

An evening with the fantastic Jessamyn Stanley, NO YOGA, JUST GREAT CONVO!

When Donna from CurveSomeYoga told me that she will be holding an event with Jessamyn Stanley, I was like YESSSSSSSS! This is going to be fantastic. Just knowing how much Donna loves her work, I was very happy for Donna and happy enough to just go along and be in the moment. I really wasn’t ready for Jessamyn Stanley.

All I knew about Jessymyn was her ability to do some fantastic Yoga, things that a Fat Woman shouldn’t be able to do (according to society, but us plus size ladies know different). I had never heard her speak in an interview and I never knew how in tuned and woken this lady is.
I feel like I need to go read and listen to every interview she has done, just so I can get more of what I experienced on Friday. I’m no Yogi yet, I’m still a baby when It comes to Yoga, it’s like an ocean of information/ practices and I ain’t there yet, I need to keep up with what CurveSomeYoga classes do, before I go diving in.
Back to the event:

 

I got there late, which pissed me of, having to use the google maps when walking is the worst, (dyslexia and direction are the two double D’s you don’t want) but I was only about 10 minutes late, which wasn’t to bad.

Instantly when walking into the room all eyes were on Jessamyn, I was able to see a few familiar faces that have been on the Plus size Fitness scene but the intent of the listening that was going on was amazing.

We were all interested and feeling every word that came out of this woman’s mouth.
Jessamyn talks about schooling, her parents, being realistic when practicing, why she wears what she does when doing yoga and why she doesn’t dress up for pictures on social media while doing Yoga, why she got into teaching Yoga, how Yoga helped improve her Mental health, the importance of meditation, looking within and how that helps her be real.

To Jessamyn’s surprise, she was able to meet the founder of too fat to run, Julie Creffield (in picture above), who was in the audience. Jessamyn openly explained how much she had admired the cause and how she found Julie inspirational.

Jessamyn states the views of the industry which many people seemed to totally agree with.
What I like about Jessamyn the most is that she isn’t afraid to say things like it is, for example how the perception of yoga is a white female middle class practice and how the industry seem to exclude the real essence of what yoga is and in my eyes omit the true origin of yoga. How the unrealistic way that Yoga is mainly advertised can cause more harm than good.

I’m attraction to Yoga is the spiritual aspect of it and the internal feeling that I get, I’m not ready for back bends yet, lol. For me, I will start from the beginning, it’s like when I first started playing the flute as a child, I had to learn the basic and the theory before I was able to take any exams to show my skills. Right now, for me, I’m gonna embrace the feelings that I get from Yoga and tap into my true essence of me.

After basically running overtime, Jessamyn went to the pub and continued being the fantastic chick that she is and just mingled with the group. I wasn’t able to attend but got some great pics after and can’t wait to get learning more about this amazing lady.

 

Please please watch the interview, and enjoy the realness of the beautiful Jessamyn Stanley.

 

Xxx Fran xxX

SWAP ITEMS WITH, NO MAKEUP, A BLOATED BELLY AND THE SAME SHOES, TUT TUT.

It’s been some time from doing a Proper post, but I was so excited by the last Fat Positive Clothes Swap,in feburary, I had to rush take pictures and show you.

By the way, these pics have:

• NO MAKEUP,
• NO CHANGE OF SHOES
• A BLOATED STOMACH,
• AND UNIRONED CLOTHING

Me with makeup! lol. For those who dont know its snapchat, not my bad makeup skills.

 

Which I clearly needed for some of these items. But I don’t really care I just had to share. Tbh, I don’t wear much support underwear anyway.
So here are some of my favourite items and I just can’t wait to get out there to show them off.

Taking pictures in the wrong light, is something that i do all the time and i really need to sort out my poses, if anyone wants to give me lessons in how to take a decent picture, please let me know.

Can I also big up my Asos mens shoes, as they were in the January sale and I wish I ordered more than one pair.

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So i have my dress that i wore today and love so much, the colour, the cut and the length is beautiful and works well with my figure.

 

Here i have a dress thats a little big, but im sure with the right black belt, it will look  better.

 

Now, I have never owned a scarlet and Jo dress and now i have one.

OK, yes i didnt iron the dress. i really couldnt be bothered.

 

This dress is a sainsbury TU, and i have fallen in love with every inch of it.

Below id a simply volumptious dress, the chest area is my favorite. and my hair is getting messy as we go down the pictures. ROLL EYES!

Only god knows what i was looking for.

 

I saw this cardigan (im a cardigan lover) and skirt and just had to pick them up, both items are knitted. Like who has a knitted pencil skirt, in blue at that.

 

I also want to thank those whos clothes these items were originally, if it wasnt for you i wouldnt be a happy bunny right now.

Heres a link to my YouTube channel, for more information about the swap and what happens when you get there.

 

UNTILL NEXT TIME FOLKS.

BIG LOVE

 

Xxx Fran xxX

Loveracing25, you need to see her on that pole. 👏👏👏👏 :)

I have found a plus size pole dancer who seems to be my new girl crush, I know I have done a post about plus size pole dancers before but none are quite like this one (well I think so anyway). She had me watching her YouTube channel for over an hours the other day and all I could think about was making sure I put a blog post up about her.

The way she moves on the pole is amazing, she has such grace and moves just a fluently as the “normal” sized pole dancer. Loveracing25 shows you her practice, the hard days, her work rainy days practice and alot of humour. Its not all about showing how good she is, you see how hard she works to get to the level that she has, and she just seems like a lovely woman, some of the song choices are just on point to.

 

She goes by the name off Loveracing25 and you can find her on twitter, YouTube and Instagram, I don’t even know her name. But what I do know, is that this girl don’t get enough publicity in her expertise on pole.

instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loveracing25/

Twitter:https://twitter.com/loveracing25

 

I’m guessing all who reads my post understand by now, that I love discussing things that are relating to the subject of sex, 😜 but this post is simply about praising someone who has put practise, effort, dedication (and all those positive and inspiring words) into something that many folk out there would say, she shouldn’t be doing because of her size. Loveracing25’s earliest post was 6 years ago and you can see how far she has come from her post to date.

I love the art of pole dancing but seeing a woman who is plus size dance so elegantly on a pole just makes my heart filled with joy. And I feel if anyone can inspire a size 14+ person jump on that pole and perform it will definitely be Loveracing25.

 

NOTHING BUT LOVE FROM ME SUGA. 👏👍💪👊👌 Go subscribe guys.

 

Xxx Fran xxX

 

 

NEW YEAR NEW VIEW! GET CurveSomeYoga INTO A NEW YOU, for FREE! In London Only.

 

I am so new into this yoga game and when TRYING to do it at home, I never know if I am doing it right. But with the feeling that it gives me, I feel I need to just keep on going.

Thanks to Facebook, I was able to attend a Curvesome yoga class. All info on my experience is linked below.

https://thekurvekit.wordpress.com/category/yoga/

So as it’s soon 2016, I vowed to really keep my promise to my body, to at least do Yoga twice a week and being an ambassador of the Curvesome Yoga I really need to practice what I preach.

LUCKILY Donna Noble the founder of Curvesome Yoga told me about her plans for January 2016, which will help me keep this two day a week promise to myself for the next 6 weeks, which starts next week.

Donna will be having an online course of yoga twice a week and at the end of the course all who have been participating, will be attending an actual event to do yoga on the last day. This already feel like it will be a lot of fun. Yoga in your home and the fact that Donna can advise, help and support you through it, is a great opportunity for many. the only sad thing is that this is only for those who live in London.

This is the start that I need. With my schedule so busy, especially with 3 children and being self-employed, this is a great opportunity to keep being active in yoga.

https://www.facebook.com/CurveSomeYoga/

 

If you would like to take part, then please contact Curvesome yoga, and please remember that no matter what size you are or whatever you feel your limitations may be, Donna will always have an alternative position for you to do. Do contact Donna if you have any questions, as she will be able to make you feel at ease to enable you to take part. click on the link below.

 

https://ginicam.com/event/3HjMuu2XxcVb25aoqYlhTmt

 

I have to be honest, I would rather get to go to the Curvesome Yoga class more often, as they are so much fun and everyone who attends really encourages each other, but being able to take part live is the next best thing.

heres a little video to help you ssee what Curvesome Yoga is all about if your not very sure what to expect. I hope to see some of you taking part in the online course and possibly at the end of cource event.  But remember its free, so its a good way to see how Curvesome Yoga works for you.

Xxx Fran xxX

 

 

 

 

#BEAUTY HAS NO SIZE OR COLOUR?

 
Happy New Year to you all.

 

A person I met in passing, (A white lady around 45+) had asked me, why are black plus size women so confident and know how to dress for their body type so well? This isn’t the first time mind you, I have been asked a question like this.

I firstly told the lady, (who was also dressed beautifully) that not all of us are as confident as we seem, but culturally being plus size seems to be more accepting in our culture for many years. Many black plus size women dress to compliment there shape and size. (Please bare in mind, I am not saying all black women, many have grown up with nothing but difficulty in dealing with their size. And I’m also NOT saying that other races do not do the same. )

This got me thinking. Why women of colour aren’t, represented in the plus size UK fashion industry. Women of colour buy clothes, they spend money on items that brands put out, So why is there so little representation in the plus size Fashion?

I find that the UK do not embrace the plus size women of colour, when it comes to PS fashion. I have always admired how the US incorporates all ethnicities when it comes to fashion and I would love to have the same in the UK.

Growing up in the 80s I can remember seeing much more plus size black and Asian women than I did any other colour.

One memory that I can regularly remember from a young age, is when I had to go to church with my mum.

So many women who were plus size put on some outfits that was their church best. You had colour, vibrancy and confidence that was always complimented on when you saw them.

My mum as a dark skinned Caribbean woman always had on so much colour when going to church.

The African culture also live in colour items and dressed up in their vibrant tribal patterns which always had colour, which made them look so nice and complimented their skin tones.

No matter what size these ladies were they looked good and especially when it came to attending church.

The Asian plus size community would also be similar, when seeing the ladies wear their sarees that showed their bellies and yes plus size Asian showed their stomachs.

And they never appeared worried about anyone seeing their stomach rolls.

All this and so much diversity but still not recognised in the industry and celebrated/acknowledged much at all, In the UK.

I strive to make a conscious effort, to have a melting pot of ethnicities when I post on social media. I must be honest I really struggle to find Asian or oriental plus size women photos in the UK, models or any who blog about plus size issues, but this is a work in progress and once I find them I will definitely be sharing.

If we look into any form of UK Plus Size ceremonies or awards, very few women of colour will be nominated or even win an award, this should not be the case at all.

 

But in the meantime, here are some of the plus size women of colour in the UK that I feel should get recognition for what they do and you should check out if you haven’t already.

 

http://www.chanelboateng.co.uk/

http://www.nerdabouttown.com/2015/12/2015-a-year-in-style.html

http://www.graciefrancesca.com/?m=1

http://www.beautyfulyouniverse.blogspot.co.uk/

http://www.ucantwearthat.com/

 

I would love to see more plus size women of colour get recognition for their style and contribution to the plus size industry, especially as you have trending styles that come from their own communities and cultures. Inclusion of ethnicities are just as important as body shaming and also contributes to body positivity. So if you want to shout out about these topics, let’s at least include the basics first.

 

 

Below are some plus size fashionista from overseas

http://www.mycurvesandcurls.com

http://garnerstyle.blogspot.co.uk/

http://www.insidealliesworld.com/

http://www.curvygirlchic.com/

http://www.fatinthecity.com/

http://girlwithcurves.com/

http://everythingcurvyandchic.com/

http://www.essiegolden.com/

http://www.chardline.com/

http://curiousfancy.com/

Xxx Fran xxX

NUDITY WARNING. In praise of NOWNESS and their Fat Video

CONTENT FOR OVER 18 ONLY.

MAY I JUST START BY SAYING, I HAVE NO IDEA HOW TO PUT UP A CONTENT WARNING SIGN UP. SO IF YOUR UNDER 18, THEN GO AWAY. YOUR TO YOUNG AND THIS BLOG POST ISNT FOR YOUR AGE.  IF ANYONE KNOWS HOW TO DO THIS THEN PLEASE LET ME KNOW.

I have just watched, NOWNESS video, Define Beauty:in praise of fat film, Heavyweight staring Vanity Fox and Brock Avery.

When starting to watch this video, I had no idea of where it was going!

Once I saw the stretch marks and I know this may sound a bit bad but, all I could think of was, OMG! they look like mine. Before you start, no I don’t have any issues with mine or hers.

Then I paused the video, just to really think about what is going to happen in the space of 1.40 minutes, so I continued. Then to my horror  I saw the water dripping down her body, I couldn’t stop thinking, Ohhh why have sweat running down a fat woman, its just so of putting. Like all we do is sweat, even when its not hot, for Pete’s sake.  Hopefully, the fact that the water was horrific to ME, will make sense the more you read .

Then the music started, which shit me up to be fair, ( I WAS WEARING HEADPHONES) I really wasn’t expecting it to be so dramatic. Was there a pop up that spoilt my viewing. You know those ones that really like to spoil things for you on the laptop, all of a sudden a voice or music from somewhere starts in the laptop devise, which take you up to a good few minutes to actually find out where it s coming from. Anyway I digress. The music was like an intense fight that you see on a film that starts of slow and builds up to someone seriously getting hurt.

I then had to start the video all over again, but while doing this, I then got thinking about the name Heavyweight. What do they really mean by this? Is Vanity Fox the heavyweight or Brock, because he was taking care of business? Are they implying that men who love intimacy with a plus size woman should be given the title heavyweight?

So I continued to watch (AGAIN). Brock was really getting into the groping and everything, he was happy to divulge himself into to her whole body. Which I can imagine people out there cheering him on. lol

Then i suddenly went back to my original HORROR, (OK! So now you guys must realise by this point, when I get stuck on something, I don’t rest until it makes sense to me, which is the reasons why it becomes HORRIFIC )  the water! Is it suppose to represent something else?

Was it his love runneth over,  lolololol, if you know what i mean. Was it her love runneth over? They really wasn’t doing anything so strenuous that sweat could have developed, no shower , sink or bath was present. She wasn’t drinking water or anything like that, was it dribble? No really!What was it supposed to blooming be. YES I AM OBSESSING ABOUT THE WATER,  SO IF YOU HAVE A THEORY PLEASE COMMENT, HELP ME OUT HERE.

What I actually loved about this clip, was the fact that, when all was over and a shot of Vanity’s whole body appeared, her face spoke volumes.

What was she thinking? was it:

A, You just wished you just had all of this, like he did.

B, You didn’t realise fat could look so good.

C, This is what ya’ll missin.

D, Wow, i wasnt even expecting that.

E, Ladies this is how its done.

F, I am a true goddess and every inch of me, should be worshipped.

What did you think that last look was all about?

Overall, I liked it ALOT. Heavyweight was intense, had me wanting to see it till the end, I  was also happy to sit back and identify  which parts of the body i was seeing on my screen. I was engrossed, in how he was in an element of indulgence using all his senses to consume every part of her body all at once. And to finish with that look on her face, just topped it of for me. I felt an emotion, cant pinpoint which one.  She gave me a sense of YOU GO GIRL, you ARE HOT and he enjoyed every bit of you. But it still leaves me with the BLOODY WATER.

Full Video below.

https://www.nowness.com/series/define-beauty/heavyweight-james-lees

Xxx Fran xxX

Kurve Kit Presents Kurve Konfidential

So this weekend, The Kurve Kit YouTube channel started, with the new series Kurve Konfidential.

The Keys To Confidence, Episode 1 Part 1 of Kurve Konfidential.

I’m so excited, I have some lovely ladies on there and I just can’t wait to have regular content up. We have so much in store.

I have wanted to do this for some time and things are moving in the direction I want them to go. I have so much support its unreal and people who are helping with sending out the messages that I want to get out their.

This has never been about me. Only the Kurve Kit WordPress blog gives you most of my thoughts and feelings that I need to get of my chest. But with the YouTube, Twitter,  and Facebook pages are mainly soley focused on the plus size community. Bare in mind a lot of what I say, share, and talk about can be very relative to the slim community too, as its not only the plus size community that have challenges in their lives.

I also want to thank these beautiful souls, for supporting the beginning of something new and special, I just hope that you all will feel the same way. Please Subscribe, Like, Comment  and Share.

Judi Love

Tanya B

Kat Henry

Michelle Carter

Likwid design solutions

All links to their pages are on the YouTube description box and on the Episodes.

Plus all my family and friends that honestly believe in all I do and support me in reaching my goals. If it wasn’t for you guys, I don’t know where I would be right now.

I honestly hope you enjoy The Kurve Kit on YouTube and if you don’t let me why. And once again thank you all for reading, watching, supporting, commenting and sharing. I love you guys, it’s because of you why I keep going.

Xxx Fran xxX

Most Viewed Facebook Post Of The Week…..

Most Facebook views of the week is……….

Press below to view link.

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=631938313613099&id=519124064894525

Somehow I came across this post and I just had to share. Firstly the ladies outfit was spectacular from what I could see.

Her bright orange flared trousers and her crochet top looked beautiful from the back.

The way she danced only ment one thing, and that she ment business.

Then it happened, she jumped he caught her and with the sultry dancing that they both displayed before the lift, it was a dance that set the whole place on fire.

The crowd could only raw in excitement from what they saw.

Which was a medium size man who may I say was getting on down, to a plus size lady that he was able to pick up and maintain a dance in a way that only lovers should do.

With the anticipation building from when the lady took a jump onto his waist, he was able to grab hold of her and take full control in all his glory.

It worked and I am so glad he was able to show his strength and she was able to show her flexibility.

To round up this week’s spectacular post, I want to give those guys who know, their way around a plus size lady a big 👍💪✋👌
Until next week.

Xxx Fran xxX

Most viewed post of the week, Zo’s Tees

Most viewed post of the week is a zo’s Tees.

I know right. Its so true!

As I have been ill for the past two weeks, (hence the reason I havent posted any blogs), I have been making up for the days I didnt eat while I was ill. That wasn’t planned but its just happened.

If you are blessed in cooking good food, have a loved one that cooks up a storm or you love going to restaurants, why should you miss out.

Its like this, you know when you have that one person that gives you the best sex ever, but they aint good for you, cos they can’t commit, but you keep on going back. Yes thats it, thats me with food.

On a sunday when your roast was on point and you have finished eating, the dishes are done and your getting ready to watch the sunday night movie. That’s when your back in the kitchen to make a small bowl with the left overs. 😦

I know we have to learn to eat in moderation, but when it taste so good. It can be the hardest thing ever.

Xxx Fran xxX

Most viewed post of the week. Parenting Vs Media

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This was the most views post of the week on The kurve Kits Facebook page.

And you can see why!

How can we protect our children from the media and all the slim, flawless and photo-shopped people that we see on tv, which inject our children with low self-esteem.

There are no easy answers and they may all differ from child to child, but here are a few tips that worked for me.

1, Keep your child active.

When your child starts walking, make sure you both take that small walk to the local shop, let them walk along side the buggy and put them back in for a rest once they get tired.

If there are play groups then go, let your child have fun and not stuck on your lap the whole time. When they start nursery, do not take the buggy if it’s not far.

If they are school age, get them into after school activities like football or games clubs, dance or ballet. Trust me, they are out there.  Use your local parks and the internet have so much ideas of games in the park with children.

2, Eat healthy, as often as you can.

Try to get information on eating healthy.  I am not saying don’t have a family take away. cook with your children,  introduce fruit and veg from a young age, so your child will get used to them and if it doesn’t work, try and try again. Keep sweets and treats to a minimum, or make your own cake or cookies.

This is better than buying them and you can have special treat days in the week where you all enjoy your baked goods, which is also fantastic for bonding time.

3, Talk about the body.

Explain differences in people, talk about how everyone is beautiful. Find out what they feel is beautiful, so you understand what their perception is and help support them in the right direction. I am not saying preach to your child, use this time to find out what your childs views are on the world around them.

4,  Help them understand that beauty starts from within.

Understanding that being beautiful on the inside is more important that whats on the outside. For example, when another child shares a toy with your child, explain that was a nice thing to do. Praise your child for being kind as we can often focus on negative behaviours.

With an older children, use TV programs or cartoon characters to help them understand what is good person or a kind person, the draw out the beautiful qualities from there. Always use examples to help them understand and ask them for an example of who they think is beautiful.

5, Seek advice.

I know that the government will be taking away many children centres and parent support teams, so you may have to move fast but there is help. Call the council and see where the nearest place is for support, talk to teachers and ask if they know of any places, where you can gain Information in supporting your child in confidence building and/or body image support.

6, Let them see photo shop

If your child is older, this is a great way to help them understand that many things get changed and are not real. Youtube have many great videos of how models get changed to look completely different to what they actually look like.

I hope this helped some of you.

Don’t get me wrong, my kids are all thick-set. but when it comes to their physical activity ability, i wish i was able to do the things they can do, even when I was their age and I was a active young person. My daughter has been doing ballet, tap and acrobatics from the age of 4, and now she does gymnastics and does all these things that some of you and i could only imagine doing.

This advice isn’t about making sure you child doesn’t turn out bigger than all the other kids. It’s simply about ensuring that our children remain healthy as possible. We have to take into consideration that genetics plays a big part in how our children look too.

When your a plus size parent, many will assume you do not feed your children correctly and you just give the unhealthy food. I used to love the look on people’s faces when I pull out a fruit salad at a picnic with people I don’t know and the shock on their faces when my picnic was way more healthier than there’s.

Xxx Fran xxX