Swap Till You Drop! Fat Positive London.

Caring is Sharing. So have a read and watch the YouTube link, LIKE, SHARE AND COMMENT! And let me know if your coming to the next Fat Positive Clothes Swap. All information is given on the video.

 
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Finding out what’s going on in the plus size community can be difficult at times, especially if you’re not a part of the Plus size bloggers seen or in any kind of social media group.

 

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I got 4 of these tops from the swap, all from yours clothing and all different colours, perfect for work wear.

 

 

So that’s why Kurve Kit dedicates itself to sharing all plus size information, with all who wants it or needs support in living a plus size life.

Getting current information can be hard work and you have to make it a mission to be in the know. It’s be bad enough finding clothes let alone anything else. It’s only been the last 6-8 years, that I have been able to find clothing that fits in my price range and understand what works well for me and my body.

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Swap item, Primark owl top, I so love it!

 

When I started The Kurve Kit I came across the fat positive clothes swap on twitter, this just sounded like a great idea and it wasn’t too far for me to travel to. It was nice to get rid of all the clothes that I had piled up, just sitting there, that was way too good to throw and things that still had tags on.

 

When I got there I was in shock, with how easy it was to get around and understand how it all works and I also got chatting to some lovely folk who really seemed to be helpful and complimentary when trying on items.

I was able to take a picture of Kirsty one of the organiser (Alongside Claire who I haven’t had the pleasure to meet yet).

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The lovely Kirsty one of the Organisers

 

Kirsty was happy for me to promote the event on The Kurve Kits social media sites. They also have food at the swap so if you want a bite to eat, you have the option.

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I KNOW RIGHT!

 

When attending my forth Fat Positive Clothes Swap, I thought it was time to share the true essence of the swap. It wasn’t just about swapping clothes, it’s about acceptance, community, coming together and so much more.

While interviewing the wonderful, Michelle and Tukru who are just so endearing and sweet. They were able to express how they feel about the swap and also Kirsty explaining the reasons why it started in the first place, which also shocked me, because this has been happening for a years. 

 

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Another swap item, Jacket from Lane Bryant, I was so happy and its made so well

 

 

Clothes swaps have been a trend for some time, but I know that I would never find items for my size at any old swap that wasn’t specifically for the plus size.  I can’t shout enough from the roof tops how great these days are, and I am actually happy to spend the day there. What’s even better is that friends who are size 16 plus, give me the items that they don’t want but still in good condition, to take along also. Along as I have my car and petrol,  I will continue to attend and give clothes. And when I get home and an item don’t fit or look exactly how I expected, it goes in a black bag and I take it right back to the next swap ready to be given a new home.

 

Hope you enjoyed the video, please share, like or subscribe to the channel, so you are constantly up to date with what I find on the streets of London and if you know of anything that we would enjoy let me know and i will help spread the word too.

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One of my ultimate favorites from the swap, Asos Curve dress.

 

Xxx Fran xxX

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Can Simply Be, Really Be For Me?

So, I’m not a Simply Be kind of girl, I don’t know why. They just haven’t grown on me as much as I wish and frankly I find their prices for SOME items just a bit to high, for me. Yes I am a big bargain hunter. But I don’t feel that I have tried on enough Simply Be items to out rule them out of my life.

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I see a lot of ladies in their clothes on blogs and the adverts on TV are amazing, but! I still just don’t see anything that says buy me on their website apart from what gets advertised. Oh No, I Lie, one dress that I got for my sister’s wedding.

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So as the adverts are so tempting, I felt I better go to the store on Oxford street and take a good look. While on my enjoyable bus journey, I convinced myself to stay open-minded and be adventurous, find something that I don’t usually wear. And also find something that I do wear all the time.

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I got to the store and went straight to the sale section as I usually do. And unfortunately found nothing that was really me or something that I could be adventurous with. I like flowers but not that much.
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Anyways, when looking in the non sale sections, I saw a few things that caught my eye, mainly a pleated leather look skirt that unfortunately had the smaller sizes and none of the bigger ones, which I need. I also saw this white shirt that called me so much that I had to try it on. I don’t wear shirts often at all. Only due to my gaping breast. But this had no buttons.

I then picked up some jeans and a pencil skirt with another yellow shirt that just looked like it could brighten up the darkest days.

So items that I would usually wear are, skinny jeans and skirts.

Items that I don’t usually wear are shirts, at all, standardly.
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Pro’s
I feel in love with both of these shirts. Colour and fit. And I will say that I feel they look good too. Plus the jeans fit very nicely and had a good amount of stretch in them. Also I can’t forget the changing room, so spacious and lit up beautifully.

Cons.
I wasn’t to impressed with the tube skirt, if it came in more at the bottom, I think I would be happy but it was just to baggy, not to say it didn’t look nice but I like my skirts tight. I suppose I could have got a smaller size but don’t think that would really work.
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And lastly, the sizes in store. Especially the nice leather look pleated skirt. If an item is selling out fast, you better get stocking up on them very quickly. As the amount of stores that simply be have, you really don’t want the disappointment of not seeing something in your size in store.

Overall. My trip wasn’t that bad, actually it was pretty good. For general wardrobe wear, I can’t bring myself to buy items from Simply Be unless they are in the sale, ( tbh I buy most things in the sale) but if I really wanted something, I WOULD buy a full priced item from Simply Be.

Xxx Fran xxX

Most viewed post of the week. Parenting Vs Media


This was the most views post of the week on The kurve Kits Facebook page.

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And you can see why!

How can we protect our children from the media and all the slim, flawless and photo-shopped people that we see on tv, which inject our children with low self-esteem.

There are no easy answers and they may all differ from child to child, but here are a few tips that worked for me.

1, Keep your child active.

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When your child starts walking, make sure you both take that small walk to the local shop, let them walk along side the buggy and put them back in for a rest once they get tired.

If there are play groups then go, let your child have fun and not stuck on your lap the whole time. When they start nursery, do not take the buggy if it’s not far.

If they are school age, get them into after school activities like football or games clubs, dance or ballet. Trust me, they are out there.  Use your local parks and the internet have so much ideas of games in the park with children.

2, Eat healthy, as often as you can.

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Try to get information on eating healthy.  I am not saying don’t have a family take away. cook with your children,  introduce fruit and veg from a young age, so your child will get used to them and if it doesn’t work, try and try again. Keep sweets and treats to a minimum, or make your own cake or cookies.
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This is better than buying them and you can have special treat days in the week where you all enjoy your baked goods, which is also fantastic for bonding time.

3, Talk about the body.

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Explain differences in people, talk about how everyone is beautiful. Find out what they feel is beautiful, so you understand what their perception is and help support them in the right direction. I am not saying preach to your child, use this time to find out what your childs views are on the world around them.

4,  Help them understand that beauty starts from within.
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Understanding that being beautiful on the inside is more important that whats on the outside. For example, when another child shares a toy with your child, explain that was a nice thing to do. Praise your child for being kind as we can often focus on negative behaviours.

With an older children, use TV programs or cartoon characters to help them understand what is good person or a kind person, the draw out the beautiful qualities from there. Always use examples to help them understand and ask them for an example of who they think is beautiful.

5, Seek advice.

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I know that the government will be taking away many children centres and parent support teams, so you may have to move fast but there is help. Call the council and see where the nearest place is for support, talk to teachers and ask if they know of any places, where you can gain Information in supporting your child in confidence building and/or body image support.

6, Let them see photo shop

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If your child is older, this is a great way to help them understand that many things get changed and are not real. Youtube have many great videos of how models get changed to look completely different to what they actually look like.

I hope this helped some of you.

Don’t get me wrong, my kids are all thick-set. but when it comes to their physical activity ability, i wish i was able to do the things they can do, even when I was their age and I was a active young person. My daughter has been doing ballet, tap and acrobatics from the age of 4, and now she does gymnastics and does all these things that some of you and i could only imagine doing.

This advice isn’t about making sure you child doesn’t turn out bigger than all the other kids. It’s simply about ensuring that our children remain healthy as possible. We have to take into consideration that genetics plays a big part in how our children look too.

When your a plus size parent, many will assume you do not feed your children correctly and you just give the unhealthy food. I used to love the look on people’s faces when I pull out a fruit salad at a picnic with people I don’t know and the shock on their faces when my picnic was way more healthier than there’s.

Xxx Fran xxX

A proper first Blog Post

Oooohhhh this is exciting.


Hey y’all. I’m gonna start My first proper blog post by letting you know a little about me.

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Mum of three, 35, black British, with a  psychology, sexual health and family support background and now newly self employed.

I’ve always had a lot of SIZE! I’m the tallest and biggest in my family, weigh the most and have the biggest feet in the family too and that’s just on me mums side.

So doing Kurvre Kit isn’t something that I thought I would do just because I “recently” put on weight and want to shout to the world I accept myself. I’m doing it now because I have accepted myself for who I actually am and have always been.

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I have forever been “the BIG or BIGGER one”, (don’t worry, I say it too) and have had to learn many tricks of the trade, to mask my true feelings in regards to my size and what others think about me.
I strongly believe if I ever loose a lot of weight, I will never reach a size 12, 14, or 16, the smallest I may ever get too without looking like a freak (due to my frame not the fact that slim women look like freaks ) is an 18, which is ok by me.

Funnily enough, if I ever had to loose anything on my body, it would be a little bit of my feet. Being a size 9 has been the most annoying thing in my life. But that’s for a complete other post.

Discovering this new movement of self acceptance, body positivity and simply not focusing on the flab has been liberating and enlightening. Dont get me wrong, I want to be healthy, my life hasn’t and will never consist of takeaways every week or day, eating oven cooked food for breakfast lunch and dinner, nor fruit or vegetables never reaching any my mouth. I’m actually the opposite. My flaw are not eating breakfast everyday, large portion Sizes and lack of exercise. Trust me I can get about and bust some serious dance moves, I just don’t do enough regularly.

Well, as I draw an end to my first ever (proper) Kurve Kit blog post, I just want to thank all you fabulous thick set, fat, big, tall and large women and men out there, who contribute to body positivity, in this ever growing beautiful plus size movement. Because if it wasn’t for all of you being honest about your good days and bad days, many people wouldn’t be able to identify the journey that it may sometimes take to finally come to peace with ones body.

xxx Fran xxx