Most viewed post of the week. Parenting Vs Media


This was the most views post of the week on The kurve Kits Facebook page.

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And you can see why!

How can we protect our children from the media and all the slim, flawless and photo-shopped people that we see on tv, which inject our children with low self-esteem.

There are no easy answers and they may all differ from child to child, but here are a few tips that worked for me.

1, Keep your child active.

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When your child starts walking, make sure you both take that small walk to the local shop, let them walk along side the buggy and put them back in for a rest once they get tired.

If there are play groups then go, let your child have fun and not stuck on your lap the whole time. When they start nursery, do not take the buggy if it’s not far.

If they are school age, get them into after school activities like football or games clubs, dance or ballet. Trust me, they are out there.  Use your local parks and the internet have so much ideas of games in the park with children.

2, Eat healthy, as often as you can.

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Try to get information on eating healthy.  I am not saying don’t have a family take away. cook with your children,  introduce fruit and veg from a young age, so your child will get used to them and if it doesn’t work, try and try again. Keep sweets and treats to a minimum, or make your own cake or cookies.
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This is better than buying them and you can have special treat days in the week where you all enjoy your baked goods, which is also fantastic for bonding time.

3, Talk about the body.

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Explain differences in people, talk about how everyone is beautiful. Find out what they feel is beautiful, so you understand what their perception is and help support them in the right direction. I am not saying preach to your child, use this time to find out what your childs views are on the world around them.

4,  Help them understand that beauty starts from within.
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Understanding that being beautiful on the inside is more important that whats on the outside. For example, when another child shares a toy with your child, explain that was a nice thing to do. Praise your child for being kind as we can often focus on negative behaviours.

With an older children, use TV programs or cartoon characters to help them understand what is good person or a kind person, the draw out the beautiful qualities from there. Always use examples to help them understand and ask them for an example of who they think is beautiful.

5, Seek advice.

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I know that the government will be taking away many children centres and parent support teams, so you may have to move fast but there is help. Call the council and see where the nearest place is for support, talk to teachers and ask if they know of any places, where you can gain Information in supporting your child in confidence building and/or body image support.

6, Let them see photo shop

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If your child is older, this is a great way to help them understand that many things get changed and are not real. Youtube have many great videos of how models get changed to look completely different to what they actually look like.

I hope this helped some of you.

Don’t get me wrong, my kids are all thick-set. but when it comes to their physical activity ability, i wish i was able to do the things they can do, even when I was their age and I was a active young person. My daughter has been doing ballet, tap and acrobatics from the age of 4, and now she does gymnastics and does all these things that some of you and i could only imagine doing.

This advice isn’t about making sure you child doesn’t turn out bigger than all the other kids. It’s simply about ensuring that our children remain healthy as possible. We have to take into consideration that genetics plays a big part in how our children look too.

When your a plus size parent, many will assume you do not feed your children correctly and you just give the unhealthy food. I used to love the look on people’s faces when I pull out a fruit salad at a picnic with people I don’t know and the shock on their faces when my picnic was way more healthier than there’s.

Xxx Fran xxX

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I will find my own FAT HOTNESS, thank you very much!

So I have just read “best 5 positions and ways to have hot sex as a fat woman!!!!!!” 👿

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I’m Sorry, but I am not limiting my plus size self. Us bigger chicks have got it going on if you haven’t heard. I advice every one of you to not listen to everything you read.

What makes sex HOT? Apart from having the heating on full blast and closed Windows, whilst getting it on, cos you make to much noise.

Its me, not no top 5 list. My sexual prowess is what makes me HOT. Enough of reading things to make me feel I need a ” make me HOT aid”. Why are you so narrow minded to feel I need it? I find my own hotness not yours. If I spent all my time reading and making sure I stuck to the rules of the world in regards to plus size sexual positions and your perception of HOTness, I wouldn’t understand what works for me.

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Curvy girls have enough to deal with, let alone having to be told only use 5 sexual positions that work best, due to our size.  Sexual postion limitating shaming (you like that one, hah 😜) is not the way to go and I encourage you to explore and  find your inner goddess to see what works for you and your lover.

If a position dont work for you, so what! Move to the next one. Its no different to looking at a menu and trying a meal You have never eaten before.

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There are a lot of fluffy ladies that are flexible as hell, so why are we constantly told to limit ourselves in the bedroom.

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What makes it even worse, potential partners are out there reading these articles thinking that they are limited in the bedroom with their potential plus size lover. Men are being more open and honest about their love for the bigger framed woman, why give the perception of, if you try a different position, you end up in A&E with a broken arms or legs because we can’t handle it.
Don’t get me wrong! This may be a possibility but it’s a low one.

Soon we will be reading ” Top 5 best ways to use your toothbrush for plus size women”.

It’s all good sharing information and advice, but a lot of articles give the impression that these are the only way, you will be hot and enjoy sex. I feel it’s important to promote exploration and trying new things in the boudoir.

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As fierce and confident us fat girls can be or portray, we may feel that if a position don’t work it’s due to our size, which really isn’t always the case. 

Best sexual positions don’t just rely on the shape and size of the female. Size of the penis and the partners frame may also helps determine what position works well for you too.

What may work for you may not work for another, due to bigger thighs or bigger bums etc. We are all stimulated in different ways, sensations in the breast me be greater or less. Kissing the neck may also not be as stimulating for you as it is for me, which also contributes to the Hotness and enjoyment while having sex. But you never know until you try, right!

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Sex should be fun, enjoyable and most of all pleasurable,  don’t miss out on something that may feel good for you and your lover.

If guides like this work for you, then forget all I just said. 🙊 I just talk way to much. 😦

Get out that karmasutra manule ( that I know you have ) and give them all a try if you want.

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Ok this one looks a bit complex

Make your own list to what sexual positions and ways that make your fat self feel HOT and then send me a copy (only if you want, caring is sharing you know). But Before you do, just make sure you have a good stretch first. X 😘 

BTW all pictures were found on the internet, I do not own them. I did swipe through my phone but didn’t have the guts to post. 😂😂😂😂

Xxx Fran xxX

Kurve Kits best Facebook post of the week is………Audrey Littie. 👏👏

The post of the week on The Kurve Kits Facebook was this.

I have no words, ( well I do, but this did leave me speechless).
Those who had comments of hatred for Audrey Littie really do need to take some time and reflect on themselves.

Here are the reasons why,
1. I looked at this post and saw nothing but beauty.

2. I took no notice of the fact that she was plus size, she is a woman and that’s what I saw.

3. The way she moved with such joy, it was mesmerizing.

4. She confirmed how I feel some days. You know those days when you just come out of the shower and you feeling sexy. You just got to feel yourself.

5. The large scale of confidence she shared, made me feel her presences.

6. I hoped that who ever saw this post, no matter what size you are,  you wanted to feel and embrace your body the way that  she just did.

This was  just a few feelings that came to mind when seeing Audrey’s shoot.
While I and many others had so much good and positive thoughts on this clip.

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Maybe the people who were nasty, should take a long look at themselves and think about why they have to be so nasty.
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I added a few more pictures from Audreys Facebook page just to show how hot, beautiful, confident and vibrant she is.
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Audrey, I salute you. 🙋

Xxx Fran xxX

Forever 21’s cute bargain LBD.

With me finding my new-found love of a social life that I missed out on, (another blog post for another day), I find myself being very busy and have a lot of special occasions to attend. I’m not one to splash out on clothes, I hunt for a good deal and always find one.

I had a leaving doo to attend yesterday and found myself a little early, so a wander around the shops is always a good pass time option for me.

When entering forever 21, I got the feeling that I’m not going to find much of a bargain, but came out with a dress that was very cheap and not even in the sale. Now a LBD is something that I don’t usually wear. I love bright colours and always make sure I wear them, it just goes with my personality as some may say.

As I have gotten older I have found that the more I wear black, the more I am trying to disguise myself, which is my theory about me and  not no one else’s, (I will also save that for another day too)

This dress was calling me from the other side of the room.

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BTW, I know the lightings not good, i have a big phone which dont help, but i will get better at this.

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Here is a link to the cardigan that i didn’t get, i have so many it just didnt make any sense. I just wanted to see how it looked with something over the dress.

http://www.forever21.com/UK/Product/Product.aspx?BR=plus&Category=plus_sale&ProductID=2000173891&VariantID=

When looking at the price my eyes popped out of my head. I was so happy, it was unreal. Forever 21 had a cute LBD and it only came up to £12.00, I kid you not. Don’t get me wrong, it’s not a dress that I would shout and say was a show stopper, but it’s cute. And for that price it was mine.
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So when I got home, something came over me to look online and see what else Forever 21 have that just as cute and for a similar price.
OMG! I found the same dress, in pink for £4.99, I know right. ( go on, look it up for yourself now, see if they are still in stock and come back to the post, I have more info for you). Its below!

http://www.forever21.com/UK/Product/Product.aspx?BR=plus&Category=plus_sale&ProductID=2000068378&VariantID=

EXTRA EXTRA!

Whilst looking with excitement and double checking I had the dress in my online basket, I found another black and cream dress that was also a cutie and bagged that to for another £5.99 Take a look!

http://www.forever21.com/UK/Product/Product.aspx?BR=plus&Category=plus_sale&ProductID=2000087799&VariantID=

You can thank me later, just make sure you get online ASAP. X

Xxx Fran xxX

Give me some of that #PlusIsEqual Confidence, please….

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I thought it would be a good idea to blog about post that has the most views on The Kurve Kit Facebook page each week ( well as regular as I can anyway ).

This week, it was the #PlusIsEqual by Lane Bryant catwalk clip. Press below to view clip.

http://instagram.com/p/7jbniflTx9/

The confidence that oooozes from the model was just magic. She walked that catwalk with nothing but sexiness, strength, and beauty.

I would like to think I could do the same, only when fully dressed. But with just underwear on would be a big issue for me. The thought of a nipple falling out, a wedgy, tripping over and everything spills out, like jelly dropping on the floor, would cripple me to doing anything so fierce. If I had extra sticky tape support and clingfilm wrapped around my breast and butt to ensure no spillage, I’m in.

This little clip was only around 6 seconds long, but showed how plus size women can do, just as good as a size 6 model would do on the catwalk. And with over 4 million views in total worldwide, I’m sure many people felt exactly the same as me.

You slayyyyyyyyyyed that catwalk lady and no one can take that away from you. NO ONE.

Xxx Fran xxX

A proper first Blog Post

Oooohhhh this is exciting.


Hey y’all. I’m gonna start My first proper blog post by letting you know a little about me.

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Mum of three, 35, black British, with a  psychology, sexual health and family support background and now newly self employed.

I’ve always had a lot of SIZE! I’m the tallest and biggest in my family, weigh the most and have the biggest feet in the family too and that’s just on me mums side.

So doing Kurvre Kit isn’t something that I thought I would do just because I “recently” put on weight and want to shout to the world I accept myself. I’m doing it now because I have accepted myself for who I actually am and have always been.

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I have forever been “the BIG or BIGGER one”, (don’t worry, I say it too) and have had to learn many tricks of the trade, to mask my true feelings in regards to my size and what others think about me.
I strongly believe if I ever loose a lot of weight, I will never reach a size 12, 14, or 16, the smallest I may ever get too without looking like a freak (due to my frame not the fact that slim women look like freaks ) is an 18, which is ok by me.

Funnily enough, if I ever had to loose anything on my body, it would be a little bit of my feet. Being a size 9 has been the most annoying thing in my life. But that’s for a complete other post.

Discovering this new movement of self acceptance, body positivity and simply not focusing on the flab has been liberating and enlightening. Dont get me wrong, I want to be healthy, my life hasn’t and will never consist of takeaways every week or day, eating oven cooked food for breakfast lunch and dinner, nor fruit or vegetables never reaching any my mouth. I’m actually the opposite. My flaw are not eating breakfast everyday, large portion Sizes and lack of exercise. Trust me I can get about and bust some serious dance moves, I just don’t do enough regularly.

Well, as I draw an end to my first ever (proper) Kurve Kit blog post, I just want to thank all you fabulous thick set, fat, big, tall and large women and men out there, who contribute to body positivity, in this ever growing beautiful plus size movement. Because if it wasn’t for all of you being honest about your good days and bad days, many people wouldn’t be able to identify the journey that it may sometimes take to finally come to peace with ones body.

xxx Fran xxx