An evening with the fantastic Jessamyn Stanley. NO YOGA, JUST GREAT CONVO!

An evening with the fantastic Jessamyn Stanley, NO YOGA, JUST GREAT CONVO!

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When Donna from CurveSomeYoga told me that she will be holding an event with Jessamyn Stanley, I was like YESSSSSSSS! This is going to be fantastic. Just knowing how much Donna loves her work, I was very happy for Donna and happy enough to just go along and be in the moment. I really wasn’t ready for Jessamyn Stanley.

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All I knew about Jessymyn was her ability to do some fantastic Yoga, things that a Fat Woman shouldn’t be able to do (according to society, but us plus size ladies know different). I had never heard her speak in an interview and I never knew how in tuned and woken this lady is.
I feel like I need to go read and listen to every interview she has done, just so I can get more of what I experienced on Friday. I’m no Yogi yet, I’m still a baby when It comes to Yoga, it’s like an ocean of information/ practices and I ain’t there yet, I need to keep up with what CurveSomeYoga classes do, before I go diving in.
Back to the event:
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I got there late, which pissed me of, having to use the google maps when walking is the worst, (dyslexia and direction are the two double D’s you don’t want) but I was only about 10 minutes late, which wasn’t to bad.

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Instantly when walking into the room all eyes were on Jessamyn, I was able to see a few familiar faces that have been on the Plus size Fitness scene but the intent of the listening that was going on was amazing.
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We were all interested and feeling every word that came out of this woman’s mouth.
Jessamyn talks about schooling, her parents, being realistic when practicing, why she wears what she does when doing yoga and why she doesn’t dress up for pictures on social media while doing Yoga, why she got into teaching Yoga, how Yoga helped improve her Mental health, the importance of meditation, looking within and how that helps her be real.
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To Jessamyn’s surprise, she was able to meet the founder of too fat to run, Julie Creffield (in picture above), who was in the audience. Jessamyn openly explained how much she had admired the cause and how she found Julie inspirational.

Jessamyn states the views of the industry which many people seemed to totally agree with.
What I like about Jessamyn the most is that she isn’t afraid to say things like it is, for example how the perception of yoga is a white female middle class practice and how the industry seem to exclude the real essence of what yoga is and in my eyes omit the true origin of yoga. How the unrealistic way that Yoga is mainly advertised can cause more harm than good.
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I’m attraction to Yoga is the spiritual aspect of it and the internal feeling that I get, I’m not ready for back bends yet, lol. For me, I will start from the beginning, it’s like when I first started playing the flute as a child, I had to learn the basic and the theory before I was able to take any exams to show my skills. Right now, for me, I’m gonna embrace the feelings that I get from Yoga and tap into my true essence of me.
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After basically running overtime, Jessamyn went to the pub and continued being the fantastic chick that she is and just mingled with the group. I wasn’t able to attend but got some great pics after and can’t wait to get learning more about this amazing lady.
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Please please watch the interview, and enjoy the realness of the beautiful Jessamyn Stanley.

 

Xxx Fran xxX

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SWAP ITEMS WITH, NO MAKEUP, A BLOATED BELLY AND THE SAME SHOES, TUT TUT.

It’s been some time from doing a Proper post, but I was so excited by the last Fat Positive Clothes Swap,in feburary, I had to rush take pictures and show you.
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By the way, these pics have:

• NO MAKEUP,
• NO CHANGE OF SHOES
• A BLOATED STOMACH,
• AND UNIRONED CLOTHING

Me with makeup! lol. For those who dont know its snapchat, not my bad makeup skills.
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Which I clearly needed for some of these items. But I don’t really care I just had to share. Tbh, I don’t wear much support underwear anyway.
So here are some of my favourite items and I just can’t wait to get out there to show them off.

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Taking pictures in the wrong light, is something that i do all the time and i really need to sort out my poses, if anyone wants to give me lessons in how to take a decent picture, please let me know.
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Can I also big up my Asos mens shoes, as they were in the January sale and I wish I ordered more than one pair.

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So i have my dress that i wore today and love so much, the colour, the cut and the length is beautiful and works well with my figure.

 

Here i have a dress thats a little big, but im sure with the right black belt, it will look  better.

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Now, I have never owned a scarlet and Jo dress and now i have one.

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OK, yes i didnt iron the dress. i really couldnt be bothered.
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This dress is a sainsbury TU, and i have fallen in love with every inch of it.
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Below id a simply volumptious dress, the chest area is my favorite. and my hair is getting messy as we go down the pictures. ROLL EYES!

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Only god knows what i was looking for.

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I saw this cardigan (im a cardigan lover) and skirt and just had to pick them up, both items are knitted. Like who has a knitted pencil skirt, in blue at that.

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I also want to thank those whos clothes these items were originally, if it wasnt for you i wouldnt be a happy bunny right now.

Heres a link to my YouTube channel, for more information about the swap and what happens when you get there.

 

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UNTILL NEXT TIME FOLKS.

BIG LOVE

 

Xxx Fran xxX

It’s been a busy few weeks :)👍. But I’m back. 😙

So I know it’s been a long time but it’s been busy. So just in case you forgot what I looked like and I’m still a big girl. Lol

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Loving my hair right now.

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Really need to invest in a full length mirror, cos this outfit was banging.

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Still in love with my lidl boots.

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Tried on a few dresses and wasn’t to sure, my life as usual. A bit too short for me tbh.

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Obsessed over my hair colour, which I love.

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Once again this mirror problem needs sorting.

I think that’s enough pics of my now.

😘 Xxx Fran xxX

Loveracing25, you need to see her on that pole. 👏👏👏👏 :)

I have found a plus size pole dancer who seems to be my new girl crush, I know I have done a post about plus size pole dancers before but none are quite like this one (well I think so anyway). She had me watching her YouTube channel for over an hours the other day and all I could think about was making sure I put a blog post up about her.

The way she moves on the pole is amazing, she has such grace and moves just a fluently as the “normal” sized pole dancer. Loveracing25 shows you her practice, the hard days, her work rainy days practice and alot of humour. Its not all about showing how good she is, you see how hard she works to get to the level that she has, and she just seems like a lovely woman, some of the song choices are just on point to.

 

She goes by the name off Loveracing25 and you can find her on twitter, YouTube and Instagram, I don’t even know her name. But what I do know, is that this girl don’t get enough publicity in her expertise on pole.

instagram: https://www.instagram.com/loveracing25/

Twitter:https://twitter.com/loveracing25

 

I’m guessing all who reads my post understand by now, that I love discussing things that are relating to the subject of sex, 😜 but this post is simply about praising someone who has put practise, effort, dedication (and all those positive and inspiring words) into something that many folk out there would say, she shouldn’t be doing because of her size. Loveracing25’s earliest post was 6 years ago and you can see how far she has come from her post to date.

I love the art of pole dancing but seeing a woman who is plus size dance so elegantly on a pole just makes my heart filled with joy. And I feel if anyone can inspire a size 14+ person jump on that pole and perform it will definitely be Loveracing25.

 

NOTHING BUT LOVE FROM ME SUGA. 👏👍💪👊👌 Go subscribe guys.

 

Xxx Fran xxX

 

 

ME, HER AND THEN HIM. Talking from the heart! ❤

 

ME, HER AND THE HIM. Talking from the heart!

I found this Q&A from a post on the internet and really wanted to share it with you. My writing is in the BLACK, (im just putting in my ten pence piece, don’t mind me 💰) The lady who posted the question is in the BLUE and the man who comments to it, is in RED.

 
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The woman who originally posted the question wanted to know!

 Are you a man in love with a fat girl?

If you are, I would really love to hear about what attracts you to her, and what keeps you in love!

I’m a fat woman. I’m about a size 16 American, and I have a boyfriend that physically speaking is well out of my league. He’s younger than me (29, I’m 36), tall, slim, elegant, blond, good looking, easily an 8 out of 10. I find him attractive to the point of distraction.

Emotionally we connect on every level and he swears up and down that I make him happy, that he loves me, and that I meet his needs. I ask him if he loves me and he gathers me up in his arms, laughs, kisses me all over my face and says ‘of course!’ And I do believe him. He treats me like gold.

But, given the disdain and hatred directed at fat woman, I still reel at the thought that I could be loved and found attractive – by anyone really, yet alone a good looking man. Or, actually, that anyone could not just tolerate my body, but actively desire it.

If you love a fat woman – what is it about her that keeps you coming back for more?
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(REMEMBER IM BLACK, LOL EXCUSE THE PUN.) 😂😂😂

Ok! About the above, It was nice for her to share her experience, so often women have insecurities, we can sometimes feel that we are unlovable let alone being a plus size person. One of the replies was the man below that stuck to me from all the comments like a saw thumb, but in a good way.

And why are messed up people, always have time to fill pages with hate, I just have enough time to write this blog post, let alone go on a sites, to justify and argue about how much I hate fat women. Like really, what’s your beef?
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 Mans reply to comment 🏆

Don’t be fooled by the hate. There are plenty of men that find fat, chubby, curvy, whatever you want to call it, women extremely attractive. I’m one of them.
It’s not that most people support the hatred, it’s just that the ones that do are more vocal about it than the ones that don’t.
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 SO TRUE! We seem to think that we are not worthy of the love of a good looking, fine, sexy man. Or that a thin man could possibly find us attractive too.
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 So as usual I’m gonna use food to demonstrate. We all have different taste in restaurants, but at the end of the day, if you like it, you like it and that’s it. Why would you force yourself to have food from somewhere that you don’t like or if a resturant gets publicized in the media, we should all automatically love it and go there all the time? You may walk past a resturant you have never been to and see food that looks nice, and possibly think about visiting it one day. You don’t automatically rule it out just because it’s not a franchiese

So many men are finding that they like what they like, and don’t give a shit as to what anyone says. I put the fear of openly loving a type of person down to what society seems to deem acceptable, 9 times out of 10.
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Does maturity play a part in openly saying that you find yourself attracted to a plus size woman?

 
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Why would you deny yourself of possible happiness, when you can identify that you are attracted to something that isn’t classed as the “NORM” but worried about what others will say about your personal life.

And why to the haters always have to fill pages of hate, I just have enough time to write this blog post let alone go on sites and argue about how much I hate fat women, what’s your beef?

He continues 👍

The fact is though, you don’t need to convince yourself that he loves you and finds you attractive. You need to love yourself and find yourself attractive. Until you can look in the mirror and like what you see, you will continue to find it hard to believe what he says.
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If you want to stay the weight you are, that’s great. Own it, flaunt it. Think about what you love most about your body or looks and wear clothes, makeup, etc. that flaunt those features and make you feel most attractive.
When you feel attractive, it will boost your confidence and make you feel better overall.

If, on the other hand, you don’t want to stay the weight you are, that’s great too. Make the changes you need to make to be happy. Whether it’s losing weight, building muscle or just generally toning up.

At the end of the day, all that matters is that you’re happy in your own skin.
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This made me so happy, I couldn’t have said it better myself. Many of us plus size ladies (women in general) seem to rely on someone else expressing our worth, our beauty, or essence. If we find it ourselves, we no longer need anyone to validate it for us. It’s so nice to hear this from a man tho, other than mine, lol. So many women help empower each other which is how it should be, but sometimes listen to a guy speak sense seems to resonate a little further at times.

Don’t get me wrong, having a partner that loves you and make you feel good will always contribute to boosting your confidence.

We are all human, we won’t feel confident all day, every day. We will standardly get those days when you feel but ugly and this bitch ass body don’t want to fit in any item from the wardrobe. Your eyebrows have taken on the shape of the zig zag lines in the road, you’re on your period and that high wasted skirt you got looks hideous, cos your belly looks so bloody big. But that’s OK.

What you don’t need is to constantly bash yourself to the ground till there is no way to get back up again.

And a lot of men are not as shallow as we think, he could fall in love with your personality first and not see your weight at all, usually there will be a level of physical attraction, but so many people fall in love with someone that isn’t their “normal type”, that maybe colour or shape, that was not typical to what they are usually attracted to.

 

But the beauty within this, is that you saw the person’s soul first, which is really what love is all about. A person can’t be happy with someone who has good looks and a complete shit of a personality. And if that’s what is important to you, THE LOOKS! We may need to sit down and have a little chat, email me, I’ll make the time, for you especially.✌
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To the guy that commented on this post, I just want to say, your partner is lucky to have you, if you have one and you her. I hope men that read this post find support in loving a plus size woman with pride, and ladies who read your comment find strength finding their own beauty.

And lastly the lady who posted the question in the beginning, it seems like you have a great guy there. Let him love you and love yourself too. Those words of disbelief is not good for your soul. I’m sure you are everything that he says you are and you are everything that you will soon discover about your beautiful self.

 All pictures are from pintrest.

Xxx Fran xxX

NEW YEAR NEW VIEW! GET CurveSomeYoga INTO A NEW YOU, for FREE! In London Only.

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I am so new into this yoga game and when TRYING to do it at home, I never know if I am doing it right. But with the feeling that it gives me, I feel I need to just keep on going.

Thanks to Facebook, I was able to attend a Curvesome yoga class. All info on my experience is linked below.

https://thekurvekit.wordpress.com/category/yoga/

So as it’s soon 2016, I vowed to really keep my promise to my body, to at least do Yoga twice a week and being an ambassador of the Curvesome Yoga I really need to practice what I preach.

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LUCKILY Donna Noble the founder of Curvesome Yoga told me about her plans for January 2016, which will help me keep this two day a week promise to myself for the next 6 weeks, which starts next week.

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Donna will be having an online course of yoga twice a week and at the end of the course all who have been participating, will be attending an actual event to do yoga on the last day. This already feel like it will be a lot of fun. Yoga in your home and the fact that Donna can advise, help and support you through it, is a great opportunity for many. the only sad thing is that this is only for those who live in London.

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This is the start that I need. With my schedule so busy, especially with 3 children and being self-employed, this is a great opportunity to keep being active in yoga.

https://www.facebook.com/CurveSomeYoga/

 

If you would like to take part, then please contact Curvesome yoga, and please remember that no matter what size you are or whatever you feel your limitations may be, Donna will always have an alternative position for you to do. Do contact Donna if you have any questions, as she will be able to make you feel at ease to enable you to take part. click on the link below.

 

https://ginicam.com/event/3HjMuu2XxcVb25aoqYlhTmt

 

I have to be honest, I would rather get to go to the Curvesome Yoga class more often, as they are so much fun and everyone who attends really encourages each other, but being able to take part live is the next best thing.

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heres a little video to help you ssee what Curvesome Yoga is all about if your not very sure what to expect. I hope to see some of you taking part in the online course and possibly at the end of cource event.  But remember its free, so its a good way to see how Curvesome Yoga works for you.

Xxx Fran xxX

 

 

 

 

#BEAUTY HAS NO SIZE OR COLOUR?

 
Happy New Year to you all.

 

A person I met in passing, (A white lady around 45+) had asked me, why are black plus size women so confident and know how to dress for their body type so well? This isn’t the first time mind you, I have been asked a question like this.

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I firstly told the lady, (who was also dressed beautifully) that not all of us are as confident as we seem, but culturally being plus size seems to be more accepting in our culture for many years. Many black plus size women dress to compliment there shape and size. (Please bare in mind, I am not saying all black women, many have grown up with nothing but difficulty in dealing with their size. And I’m also NOT saying that other races do not do the same. )

This got me thinking. Why women of colour aren’t, represented in the plus size UK fashion industry. Women of colour buy clothes, they spend money on items that brands put out, So why is there so little representation in the plus size Fashion?

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I find that the UK do not embrace the plus size women of colour, when it comes to PS fashion. I have always admired how the US incorporates all ethnicities when it comes to fashion and I would love to have the same in the UK.

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Growing up in the 80s I can remember seeing much more plus size black and Asian women than I did any other colour.

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One memory that I can regularly remember from a young age, is when I had to go to church with my mum.

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So many women who were plus size put on some outfits that was their church best. You had colour, vibrancy and confidence that was always complimented on when you saw them.

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My mum as a dark skinned Caribbean woman always had on so much colour when going to church.

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The African culture also live in colour items and dressed up in their vibrant tribal patterns which always had colour, which made them look so nice and complimented their skin tones.

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No matter what size these ladies were they looked good and especially when it came to attending church.

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The Asian plus size community would also be similar, when seeing the ladies wear their sarees that showed their bellies and yes plus size Asian showed their stomachs.

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And they never appeared worried about anyone seeing their stomach rolls.

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All this and so much diversity but still not recognised in the industry and celebrated/acknowledged much at all, In the UK.

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I strive to make a conscious effort, to have a melting pot of ethnicities when I post on social media. I must be honest I really struggle to find Asian or oriental plus size women photos in the UK, models or any who blog about plus size issues, but this is a work in progress and once I find them I will definitely be sharing.

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If we look into any form of UK Plus Size ceremonies or awards, very few women of colour will be nominated or even win an award, this should not be the case at all.

 

But in the meantime, here are some of the plus size women of colour in the UK that I feel should get recognition for what they do and you should check out if you haven’t already.

 

http://www.chanelboateng.co.uk/

http://www.nerdabouttown.com/2015/12/2015-a-year-in-style.html

http://www.graciefrancesca.com/?m=1

http://www.beautyfulyouniverse.blogspot.co.uk/

http://www.ucantwearthat.com/

 

I would love to see more plus size women of colour get recognition for their style and contribution to the plus size industry, especially as you have trending styles that come from their own communities and cultures. Inclusion of ethnicities are just as important as body shaming and also contributes to body positivity. So if you want to shout out about these topics, let’s at least include the basics first.

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Below are some plus size fashionista from overseas

http://www.mycurvesandcurls.com

http://garnerstyle.blogspot.co.uk/

http://www.insidealliesworld.com/

http://www.curvygirlchic.com/

http://www.fatinthecity.com/

http://girlwithcurves.com/

http://everythingcurvyandchic.com/

http://www.essiegolden.com/

http://www.chardline.com/

http://curiousfancy.com/

Xxx Fran xxX

2015 is a big THANK U 2 ALL MENTIONED!

The time has come where we spend time with family and friends, eating, drinking and having fun. So before 2016 hits, I wanted to do this blog post and thank a few people for my wonderful journey so far and also give you a quick review into my 2015 journey, which has been magnificent and also quite scary at the same time.

Late 2014, I had started The Kurve Kit on twitter, which was just somewhere to post information that may be beneficiary to anyone who is plus sized. Seen as I wasn’t familiar with twitter, like at all! This became somewhat a bit of a chore.

February
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So I decided to do a Facebook page instead and see how that goes, this was late February 2015. Facebook felt right, I was so familiar with it that I found posting information fun and within weeks, I was in a routine and enjoyed seeing my new Facebook page grow.

 

March

I also went through a lot of personal changes this year and things that I have been wrestling with for some time, seemed to just happen. The first thing I was able to do it cut of all my relaxed hair (well most of it), as I am getting older and learning to love myself more, I became aware of my culture more too..  

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To be frank, my hair wasn’t in the best condition and I wanted the chemicals out. I loved natural afro hair and admire many women who have it, so I decided to go forth and be naturally me. It took some time to fully appreciate it and 4 month and 3 haircuts later, I was hooked. I just have to try my best to stop chopping my hair of and just leave it to grow. I relaxed my hair when I was young, as I felt that this was what you did as a young black girl, but I am coming to finally understand that it’s not what the world around me that shapes who I am, its actually me that does it.

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I fully accepted my natural afro hair and started to love it. I feel so empowered that I can keep my hair curly, straighten it, if I want to and with a quick wash, I can go back to curly again. But most of all I feel nothing but regret that I didn’t do this sooner. But all this confirms to me that, I’m not going to try and fit in to what society feels is acceptable anymore, society has to fit into me.
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Also in March, I was able to attend my first plus size event, which was the Curve Convention, which was fantastic, I took pictures of some divine plus size women. There were two ladies that really took the time to have a chat and take interest in what I was doing. That was Katie from @toodalookatie,

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and Hollie from @prettybigbutterflies.
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While I was asking them for pictures, they were able to encourage me to also take a picture for them, as they were representing State Of Mind Active on the day. Both ladies had encouraged me to start blogging, but I just wasn’t ready as I had way too many commitments and to be honest completely scared to even go there. I also started The Kurve Kit Instagram the day before the Curve Convention and I was able to use the picture that they took of me and post on the Kurve Kits Instagram, which was shockingly of myself, which was something that I didn’t usually do.

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May I just say how fabulous the Curve Convention was, for my first ever plus size event, I was extremely happy to be there.

I was also able to post fantastic pictures of all these lovely ladies. I didn’t know who any of them were or even that they had blogs. In other words, I went into this whole new plus size world very blind, but also realised that if you look for things, you will find a community that is very big.

This has only fuelled my passion for making it my duty to keep information coming and post anything that will help support plus size people to be comfortable within.

June

In June I decided to leave my job and go self-employed, this was a huge decision ( another one that I was struggling with) but one of the best ones I have made in a long time. I didn’t realise how stressed I was at work, until I actually left. Don’t get me wrong I loved supporting families and running workshops that helped parents, but I started to dislike the politics that became more about the business and less about supporting the families.
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September,

I finally built up the courage to start blogging, it’s been amazing being on WordPress and I can say that I actually like spending time really talking about my interest in depth. Blogging is my space where I can be free and really say what I feel and it’s nice to have that.

October

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoyR5gx7mddV-1CsbH0Uryw

In October I then approached a few ladies that I had met Kat, Tanya, Michelle and a very good friend of mine Judi Love, to take part in The Kurve Kits YouTube channel and be a part of the Kurve Konfidential series.
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November

I also met a lovely lady called Donna Noble who runs Curvesome Yoga in October and blogged about the session.

 

This got us speaking and over time she asked me if I would like to be an ambassador for Curvesome Yoga, which of course I said yes and love the feeling that yoga gives you.

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While this year has been very busy I can honestly say, since doing what I enjoy and love, I have been very happy emotionally. The Kurve Kit just keeps on growing but 2016 feels big and there are so much more to come.

 

But I just want to thank all of those who follow on The Kurve Kits Facebook, WordPress and Instagram and those who regularly interact with me on the pages.

Also Katie and Hollie, from the Curve Convention, as it was you ladies that helped me finally start blogging.

But most of all my family, Lavonne, Lashanna, Latarra and Michelle and that means EVERY SINGLE ONE OF YOU GUYS! All my close friends, who always encourage my dreams but most importantly, Judi Love, who is also on the Kurve Konfidential, on the YouTube channel and Sonya Robertson
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and lastly, that special man in my life, cos without your talent, my shit wouldn’t look so professional.

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Happy Holidays guys and a Happy New year.

Xxx Fran xxX

Swap Till You Drop! Fat Positive London.

Caring is Sharing. So have a read and watch the YouTube link, LIKE, SHARE AND COMMENT! And let me know if your coming to the next Fat Positive Clothes Swap. All information is given on the video.

 
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Finding out what’s going on in the plus size community can be difficult at times, especially if you’re not a part of the Plus size bloggers seen or in any kind of social media group.

 

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I got 4 of these tops from the swap, all from yours clothing and all different colours, perfect for work wear.

 

 

So that’s why Kurve Kit dedicates itself to sharing all plus size information, with all who wants it or needs support in living a plus size life.

Getting current information can be hard work and you have to make it a mission to be in the know. It’s be bad enough finding clothes let alone anything else. It’s only been the last 6-8 years, that I have been able to find clothing that fits in my price range and understand what works well for me and my body.

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Swap item, Primark owl top, I so love it!

 

When I started The Kurve Kit I came across the fat positive clothes swap on twitter, this just sounded like a great idea and it wasn’t too far for me to travel to. It was nice to get rid of all the clothes that I had piled up, just sitting there, that was way too good to throw and things that still had tags on.

 

When I got there I was in shock, with how easy it was to get around and understand how it all works and I also got chatting to some lovely folk who really seemed to be helpful and complimentary when trying on items.

I was able to take a picture of Kirsty one of the organiser (Alongside Claire who I haven’t had the pleasure to meet yet).

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The lovely Kirsty one of the Organisers

 

Kirsty was happy for me to promote the event on The Kurve Kits social media sites. They also have food at the swap so if you want a bite to eat, you have the option.

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I KNOW RIGHT!

 

When attending my forth Fat Positive Clothes Swap, I thought it was time to share the true essence of the swap. It wasn’t just about swapping clothes, it’s about acceptance, community, coming together and so much more.

While interviewing the wonderful, Michelle and Tukru who are just so endearing and sweet. They were able to express how they feel about the swap and also Kirsty explaining the reasons why it started in the first place, which also shocked me, because this has been happening for a years. 

 

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Another swap item, Jacket from Lane Bryant, I was so happy and its made so well

 

 

Clothes swaps have been a trend for some time, but I know that I would never find items for my size at any old swap that wasn’t specifically for the plus size.  I can’t shout enough from the roof tops how great these days are, and I am actually happy to spend the day there. What’s even better is that friends who are size 16 plus, give me the items that they don’t want but still in good condition, to take along also. Along as I have my car and petrol,  I will continue to attend and give clothes. And when I get home and an item don’t fit or look exactly how I expected, it goes in a black bag and I take it right back to the next swap ready to be given a new home.

 

Hope you enjoyed the video, please share, like or subscribe to the channel, so you are constantly up to date with what I find on the streets of London and if you know of anything that we would enjoy let me know and i will help spread the word too.

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One of my ultimate favorites from the swap, Asos Curve dress.

 

Xxx Fran xxX

My music doesnt see size, it just hits my heart ! Chillin Playlist

In the first episode of Kurve Konfidential on YouTube, I said I had a music play list for when i getting ready to go out.

This will consist of all different types of songs, but it’s usually upbeat and meaning full, to me.but the thing i love about my music, is that it doesnt see size or colour and its just something that entres straight to your soul.

We all have dramas in your life, no matter what it is, music always makes me feel better. And especially when I’m feeling at my fattest. I find myself cocooned in my room, tidying it up while singing and/or dancing my heart out. Tidying can take hours because I’m to busy looking for more songs on YouTube or SoundCloud.

I’m not gonna lie, I find using my room an excuse to everyone, so I can just be with my music and myself.

Music is a personal affair for me, I’m happy to share songs with friends but I hate listening to music with people, I get sunk into every word and feel listening to music with others can take that away and invade my space. Maybe someone would say I go to deep when listening to music, but it’s a natural reaction for me.

Words, key changes, and the instruments all gets me locked. I can have a conversation with someone and as soon as a good song comes on I’m gone, I no longer understand what that persons saying. If it’s a song I have never heard before, I then get me phone out, find my Shazam app, wait anxiously for it to get the name of the song, once that has been done, I can then focus on the person who I was having a conversation with.

Music has comforted me when I have gone through hard times. I just thought that this was just a phase as a teenager, but I’ve done this through my whole life. The comfort I get from having a good music session is amazing.

 

 

No it’s not the same as going to a club and dancing nonstop and I really do mean NON-STOP all night, which I my second favourite music related thing to do. But being still with music on loud or with your headphones give me space. I think I find music intimate, a song can take me to places where I haven’t been, you could say it’s similar to a book.  I also seem to make up music videos for songs lol, I know it’s sad. I often give music all of my attention, even down to the lyrics.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nj6qkx5Gb2Q

Another thing that makes me happy and excited is discovering that the song completely changes half way through, till the point that you think you’re listening to a brand new song sometimes.

 

 

Do you ever get those times when you’re feeling a certain way and a song comes on to completely explain exactly how your feeling, it happens so often. It’s like god is saying “Yes my chid, it’s OK to feel this way and I understand”.

 

TBH, I think I’m quite OCD when it comes to my music, which is fine. Wish I was like this with me car and keeping it tidy.

Anyway hope you like my play list. It’s just a few songs that I can’t stop listening to at the moment.

 

Let me know how music benefits you, or just your own relationship with your music.

Xxx Fran xxX